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Primary Relationship Definition

Understand the qualities of primary relationships - then this Primary Relationship Definition may help you in your own relationship. The essential qualities of primary relationships include-

• Emotional involvement:- the intensity or depth of participants' feelings for each other
• Logistic involvement:- living and financial arrangements, shared child-rearing, etc
• Rules within relationships:- partners might agree that the maintenance of a particular relationship takes priority over others, making that relationship 'primary'.

A Definition of a Primary Relationship -
“one in which the most important attribute or quality is a belief in a high degree of commitment between people - as in marriage.”

However, another interesting perspective is found in a research paper presented by Laurie B. Levine and M. Busby of Syracuse University where they suggested that it is the expectations of each of the individuals with regard to relationships, and more importantly, their ability to negotiate their differences. The parties must co-create their joint relationship; and studies of 1,000 pre-marital couples revealed that levels of flexibility were very significant in co-creating their successful shared reality.

What Does this Mean?
Well, if you bring one set of expectations to the relationship, and your partner brings another - from your various past experiences and childhood environments, whatever either of you thinks or expects is not as important as what you gradually come to agree on - by your behaviors and discussions.
That then becomes for YOU, your Definition of a Primary Relationship

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How About Self Love - or Loving Yourself First?

Love yourself before you can love another! How can you love someone else, if you don't love yourself? Some of us were brought up with the idea that loving oneself was selfish, indulgent, self-seeking and vain. Now we are realizing that until you can love yourself as a wonderful creation of the Universe, or God (or whatever name you like to give the Universal Power), then you cannot truly love others fully. You might like to read this article for tips on how to fall in love with yourself - Ways to Love Yourself and Your Neighbors.

A few Quotes about Falling in Love

It's a titillating thing - falling in love. We love the feeling and are forever looking for it. Even reading a few quotes about falling on love can bring on that feeling again

Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired Robert Frost

"There is nothing holier in this life of ours than the first consciousness of love, the first fluttering of its silken wings." Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

To read a few more quotes on falling in love click here. Improve All Your Relationships

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More Information on Primary Relationships

Is this Love
Nurture Your Relationships - 6 Ways
Love and Dating

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